August 28

Tooth Extraction or Relationship Extraction?

Tooth Extraction or Relationship Extraction?

By Deborah Johnson

August 28, 2017

Goals, healthy habits, mindsets, personal development, positive self talk

Tooth Extraction or Relationship Extraction?

[fusion_builder_container hundred_percent=”yes” overflow=”visible”][fusion_builder_row][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”no” center_content=”no” min_height=”none”]

Relationship Extraction
Facebook Live on RELATIONSHIPS (click picture)

Have you ever experienced a tooth extraction or a relationship extraction? The word extraction may bring unpleasant thoughts. Removing either a decayed tooth or a toxic relationship can bring a feeling of dread and fear. But leaving them as is can also bring dire consequences.

If you have relationships that are toxic, they can spread poison throughout even healthy circumstances. A tooth that is decayed and is housing bacteria can do the same thing. I know this first-hand as I’ve just experienced a tooth extraction.

You Need More than a Root Canal

After my dentist had filled tooth number 22 several times, the option of a root canal was brought up. The fact that it’s also called nerve treatment didn’t calm my feeling of uncertainty about the procedure.

Upon further x-rays, the tooth was beyond a root canal. It needed completely extracted as bacteria had already eaten away half of the root, also affecting the neighboring tooth. I understand how quickly bacteria or a virus can spread after having my website hacked. (The reason I wrote the book Bad Code!) The same is true with toxic relationships in your life. Toxins and bacteria are dangerous and need to be eliminated.

I decided to have my tooth number 22 completely extracted, replaced with an implant. My very capable Implantologist, who had 37 years of experience, was allowing three hours for the procedure, which was to be quite involved and intensive. I knew it was the right thing to do, and made room in my already full schedule.

Decision for Your Future

[/fusion_builder_column][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”no” center_content=”no” min_height=”none”]

Cables of Success-Hero Mountain
RELATIONSHIPS is one of the Cables of Success on Hero Mountain!

Making the decision is to move a friend or relationship out of your close circle of trusted contacts is just as difficult as scheduling an extraction. If they are like tough sandpaper in your life, constantly scraping and wearing you down, that removal or extraction could make a huge difference in your future dreams and aspirations.

I am happy to say my tooth number 22 is no longer there. Yes, it took over three hours with many shots, (I stopped counting after ten!) scraping and pulling, but it came out in one piece, which was quite miraculous. I now have a fake tooth on a retainer and one additional short surgery before the crown can be placed on the implant. However, the bacteria is gone and my gums will be healthy again.

I tell this extraction story not to get sympathy, but to encourage you with any relationships you should take care of right away. This does not apply to Facebook friends, (read in the NPR report how an appeals court ruled on this) but your close relationships.

It’s easy to put off both a decaying tooth and the emotional upheaval of changing the role of a relationship in your life. But do not skip the step of careful evaluation and strategy as you look at the three steps listed below. I know you can be successful and will recover, just as I will with my new bottom tooth number 22! Keep smiling!

1. Evaluation

Evaluate your close circle of friends and relationships. Don’t mistake your social media friends for your close circle of contacts. You may have just two or three of those trusted contacts in your life, but they are very important in your personal and professional life.

2. Decision

If you have a toxic relationship in your close circle, decide to eliminate them. This is both a logical, yet emotional decision. Spend enough time to think through the process and expected outcome.

3. Action

Gently change your relationship. At times, putting that person in the category of acquaintance is a smart political move on your part. One of the reasons my tooth came out in one piece was my capable Implantologist kept gently scraping and moving the tooth before pulling it. You don’t have to be mean, harsh and unkind. Stay above all of that to be the professional you are!

Have You Defined all Parts of Your Purpose?

[/fusion_builder_column][fusion_builder_column type=”1_1″ background_position=”left top” background_color=”” border_size=”” border_color=”” border_style=”solid” spacing=”yes” background_image=”” background_repeat=”no-repeat” padding=”” margin_top=”0px” margin_bottom=”0px” class=”” id=”” animation_type=”” animation_speed=”0.3″ animation_direction=”left” hide_on_mobile=”no” center_content=”no” min_height=”none”]

Relationships Hero Mountain
Free download on RELATIONSHIPS.

It seems most every seminar leader and conference is speaking about purpose. It’s the latest buzzword, but has been around for centuries. Part of your purpose is defining your personal and professional Mission Statement and statement of belief. That is one of the Cables of Success. If you are a professional woman at halftime, ready to define or redefine your purpose, make an appointment now for an introductory phone conversation about Hero Mountain.™ I want to hear about YOUR journey, YOUR concerns and find out where YOU are on your climb. Working through your Cables of Success in an intensive weekend as this will increase your ROI and your success for the rest of your journey, guaranteed! Hero Mountain™ only happens twice a year, limited to a small group of women-register now! Contact me directly for group discount.

If you need CPE’sHRCI and SHRM guidelines will fit for attendees of Hero Mountain.™ The next weekend is Sept. 22-23 in Orange County, CA.*

*Registration is extremely limited! Don’t delay!

Make sure you subscribe to my YouTube channel to not miss a single video! I’ll be posting new videos on EVALUATING YOUR MOMENTUM weekly!

DEBORAH JOHNSON: Helping others Get Unstuck with Healthy Mental Code. Speaking, Concerts, In-Depth Workshops. Most recent book Bad Code: Overcoming Bad Mental Code That Sabotages Your Life! You can reach Deborah the following ways:Twitter:@DJWorksMusic • YouTube ; Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deborah.johnson; Websites: https://GoalsForYourLife.com; https://DJWorksMusic.com

 Subscribe in a reader[/fusion_builder_column][/fusion_builder_row][/fusion_builder_container]

Deborah Johnson

About the author

DEBORAH JOHNSON, M.A., creator of Hero Mountain® and former president of Los Angeles National Speakers Association, is an international award-winning music artist, author, speaker and National Media Commentator. Deborah provides tools to create your ideal lifestyle and work during the halftime of life, getting unstuck. You can live your second half fulfilled, focused and free! Up for multiple GRAMMY Awards and spending over 20 years in the entertainment industry, she's an expert on how to constantly reinvent yourself in a gig-economy. She is also the recipient of the 2018 Women's Economic Forum Exceptional Women of Excellence Award. Deborah is the author of four books and speaks and performs in both live and virtual events.

Never miss a good story! Subscribe to our newsletter to keep up with the latest news, articles, music & trends!

Never any Spam!