Energy Zappers or Positive Energy?
Energy Zappers are those who are opposite from those who create Positive Energy. My definition of Energy Zappers are those who drain energy and suck life out of you. They are the people who call and usually never have anything positive to say. You hesitate because you just know there will be some complaint or challenge voiced on a decision. When that person’s number pops up, your answer machine becomes a tool to helpdeal with the issue at a later time. Personally, I don’t want to be an energy zapper but a source of positive energy.
A person who supplies positive energy gives life to an event or project. They may not always agree with all decisions and plans, but the conversation produces and generates energy. How can we become a person who creates positive energy? To start, there are five steps listed below.
Five Steps to Create Positive Energy
Step One: Start Positive. Begin the conversation on a positive note. Begin the conversation on a positive note. This starts with an attitude of genuine interest in the other person and their perspective. Find something good to focus on at the very beginning before moving on. There’s nothing worse than immediately getting blasted at the beginning of a conversation.
Step Two: Diffuse Defensiveness. When approaching a sensitive topic, start with phrases such as: How do you feel about ….? or I’m wondering if you can help me with… This diffuses the need to be defensive and combative right out of the gate and even buys you a bit of time to regroup if necessary.
Step Three: Honestly listen. Even if we feel we have the right answers, helping others discover those answers for themselves will have greater impact for true change or revisions. It also makes them feel heard.
Step Four: Affirm. Observe and voice a positive affirmation about the other person, even if it’s very small. This may feel strange, but many negative personalities continue to be negative because of low self-esteem then transferred to others. However, it's important to be honest. Your comment shouldn’t be so outlandish as to sound like empty flattery.
Step Five: Use Humor. Humor can be a very effective tool in many situations, if used sparingly. Self-effacement is a great type of humor and can work well, but it’s also important to be firm in our beliefs and not be wavering with decisions and outcomes.
We can state our case clearly, gently and calmly by supplying energy and direction to a conversation or meeting by focusing positively on the other person and listening intently. I definitely want to create positive energy. What about you?
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